Spring Feels

It feels so good to be surprised with these beautiful flowers. It makes me feel more thankful that I am able to experience another spring and eventually another summer.

Thankful for my husband who did not give up on me. Because of him, I am able to live more years and experience more seasons!

My Chaotic Mind: My Blog Comeback Story

Funny that I deleted my personal blog last year (cywussow.wordpress.com) out of frustration and depression. By the time that my health went down really fast, that I had to give up my studies and spend most of my days in the hospital, I thought "this is the end, I have to slowly shut down my cyberlife so that husband doesn't have anything to worry when I am gone." And so I started deleting Facebook accounts, WordPress and Tumblr blogs, LinkedIn account and multiple email addresses. I already accepted my fate, I already gave up. The only accounts that remained were my email address linked to my university email, the group blog for Filipinos living/ wanting to live in Germany and my Twitter. But my husband is the most optimistic person I've ever met. Without him, I may have succumbed completely to depression, if not because of my rare disease. He told me to continue fighting, and that I should not give up because he is never going to give up. Honestly, I challenged him for divorce because I don't want to be a burden for him, but he didn't accept it and reminded me of our wedding vow: "in sickness and in health, for richer or for poorer...". He is indeed the greatest gift I have ever had in my life.

And now, here I am, creating a brand new online journal. At first I thought of this as an awareness blog for Marfan Syndrome,  but then I realized that there are already multiple support groups here in Germany, and even if I target fellow Filipinos, my goal will remain unreachable because I am thousands of kilometers away from Philippines, and I honestly no longer have contact with my cardiologist uncles to help me start an organization. After my last post about lists of Marfan Foundations and hospitals, I was left with the question "what now?". So I did a little editing on this blog, changed the blog title, converted the About page to a blog post, edited category names, a little changes on header and voila! It is again a blog that speaks about just everything in my short life. The new blog title is the rebirth of my first-ever-now-gone-Blogspot blog. Funny that after all the multiple blog trials I did since 2005 (blogged with multiple accounts in Blogspot, Tumblr, Weebly, and WordPress), I would end up with the (almost) similar blog title of my first blog. The URL though is brand new because my past URLs are already gone for good. That said, I admit, I have really a chaotic mind, I can't just stay satisfied with one thing (except in relationship, that's the only time I settle for one for the rest of my life), and I can't blame you if you were my followers before and you no longer want to follow now because I might delete this again in the future. That might be true, I can't assure you that this is really the last one. My mind is in chaos because there are a lot of things I want to accomplish before my time is up. There are thoughts that keep on swirling and I just want them put into words in any way possible.

So let me just be me in this small world of mine in the cyberworld.

Why Me?

Note: I will be posting in Taglish (Tagalog-English) because I really want to pour my emotions out.

Kahit na puno ng positivity ang last post ko, at puno ng hope ang bawat tulang sinulat ko, aaminin ko, mas madami ang depression moments ko mula nang malaman kong may aneurysm ako. First, andun yung takot ko noon, takot na hindi ko malalampasan yung operasyon, takot na yun na ang katapusan. Ang dami kong luhang iniiyak, kasi hindi pa ako handa. Hindi ako handang iwanan ang mga mahal ko sa buhay. Aaminin ko, ilang beses, at hanggang ngayon, paulit ulit kong tinatanong, "bakit ako?". Why me, of all people in the world. I know I am not the nicest person on earth, pero hindi din naman siguro ako ang pinakamakasalanan. After nung first operation ko, labas-masok ako sa hospital dahil sa complications, at promise, sumuko na ko. Ayoko na, hirap na hirap na ako sa sakit, sa hindi maipaliwanag ng agham na pinagmumulan ng lahat nung sakit. Okay ang CT-scans, pero laging may masakit. Tatlong araw lang ang itinatagal ko lagi sa bahay, ambulansya na ang naging sasakyan ko, kulang na lang yung hospital address na ang ipalagay ko sa federal ID ko. Itinatanong ko sa asawa ko, bakit ako, kasi baka may maisasagot sya, gaya ng mga panahong inaaral ko ang history ng Germany at ng Europe, may handang sagot sya lagi, pero wala syang naibigay na sagot, at ang sakit para sa aming dalawa. Para sa akin kasi di ko alam anong mangyayari bukas or sa makalawa. Para sa kanya kasi nakikita nya akong walang gana sa kahit anong bagay, laging depressed, laging nasa kwarto, tulala sa kisame. Hinahatak nya ako laging maglakad lakad, para may iba akong maisip, binibili nya lahat ng matripan ko, kesehodang pambata man yun. Andyan yung bumili ng PS4 at kung ano anong laro para maaliw daw ako pag nasa work sya. Kumpleto ko na ang coloring books ni Millie Marrota, yung kay Johanna Basford kulang lang ako ng isa, at kung ano anong coloring books pa ng iba't ibang publishing house, may 19 na ata etong coloring books sa shelf ko. Pag napapadpad kami sa bookstore, minimum 3 books lagi ang bitbit ko pauwi, kahit halos wala akong nababasa sa kanila, napupuno lang yung shelf ko, hindi naman nabubuklat. Pero hindi sya tumitigil, basta daw makakabawas sa depression ko, hindi sya magdadalawang isip bilihin. I am the luckiest girl alive kung asawa ang pagbabasehan. He is always there at my side, and takes really good care of me. Pero may araw talaga na feeling ko ako na ang pinakamalas na tao sa mundo. Ang sakit talaga tanggapin na ako ang may karamdaman na ganito. But ano pa nga ba magagawa ko? Embryo pa lang ako andito na sya, sooner or later talagang lalabas at lalabas ang symptoms. All I can do is to accept my fate, fight the negative thoughts and try to look forward. Ang hirap, pero kelangan kong gawin. Nagpaplano ako for days ahead of me, months, even years, kahit na walang kasiguruhan kung ilang araw, buwan o taon pa ang nalalabi para sa akin. I continue to write my plans and dreams, because those things makes me feel more optimistic, it gives me a tinge of hope to hold on and continue the fight.

Sabi nga ng kaibigan ko dito, laban lang ng laban, walang sukuan!